I have been accused of being an unyielding optimist. I see positives when many people see only negatives. No, I am not delusional. But I think that I have a relatively unique ability to objectively view the positive and negative aspects of a situation.
No I do not think I am infallible, nor am I bragging. But I do feel that there are two sides to every story and, seeing and understanding those sides is critical to maintain a healthy emotional balance.
I came across a couple of quotes from "Man's Search for Meaning," by Dr Viktor E Frankl, that I think lend insight into my perspective as follows:
"To discover that there was any semblance of art in a concentration camp must be surprise enough for an outsider, but he may be even more astonished to hear that one could find a sense of humor there as well; of course, only the faint trace of one, and then only for a few seconds or minutes. Humor was another of the soul's weapons in the fight for self-preservation. "
"To draw an analogy: a man's suffering is similar to the behavior of gas. If a certain quantity of gas is pumped into an empty chamber, it will fill the chamber completely and evenly, no matter how big the chamber. Thus suffering completely fills the human soul and conscious mind, no matter whether the suffering is great or little. Therefore the 'size' of human suffering is absolutely relative."
My point is simple:
One can view an adverse situation negatively, wallowing in the pain and suffering and letting it infuse your entire being.
Or one can choose to stand up against such adversity, find humor in it even where humor seems woefully out of place, and strive to meet its challenges head on in order to turn what seems to be certain failure into a resounding victory.
I choose the latter.