I heard a mother-daughter exchange that gave me pause. I pondered, and have come up with an answer that I think may help anyone who faces the same query from an obviously vulnerable, slightly defensive child. Please read, ponder and share:
Daughter: 'I'm hungry.'
Mother: 'You're always hungry.'
Daughter: 'So you think I'm fat?'
I did not hear the mother's next comment. In front of them, however, was another mother-daughter pair. The mother says, with a wistful smile: 'Same thing, every family,' having obviously overheard the same exchange.
I have, as I said, pondered these comments, in light of today's mixed up world. Here is the correct answer that a caring parent should share:
First of all, when a mother (or father) states a truism such as 'You're always hungry,' it is simply because every young person, from about the age of 7 until the child goes to college and leaves the daily routine of the family home, IS hungry. So it is neither a positive or negative comment, at face value, for a parent to state that a child is 'always hungry.'
Second, and however, you should have enough self-awareness to already know the answer to your question as to whether you are 'fat.' But, as your loving parent, I am the last and only person who may ever love you enough to be completely honest with you. Because I care about you, I will answer your query and tell you if you are overweight so that, if you are unable or unwilling to be honest with yourself, you may gain self-awareness and do something about it.
The human body needs nourishment to thrive. What the body takes in, it uses to create energy. What it does not need as energy, and what it does not burn off through exercise, it stores as fat. Hence, if you take in more than your body requires to thrive, and do not burn off the excess through exercise, you will gain weight - another truism. The self-aware individual, therefore, understands this fact of life and realizes that being overweight mostly has to do with the choices we make as individuals, excluding a small percentage of people whose genetic makeup decreases their ability to adequately metabolize what they eat.
For the vast majority of us, therefore, being overweight is not a state of mind; It is a state of being and it is less healthy than if an individual can attempt to maintain a balanced weight. We each follow various health recommendations and read, listen and share many of them every day. But what is so very important for each of us to understand is that the choices we make, in large part, determine the health we will or will not enjoy during our lifetimes.
A third truism is the most important: 'All things in moderation.'